dear Sarah,
remember when you didn’t want girls?
when you found out you were having Rylie, you were okay because this was going to be your one girl. and then Emmaline came and you wen through your whole pregnancy being angry, scared and in denial that you would have two girls. by the time Paisley came, you were so used to girl-mom life it really didn’t matter. and then baby #4 turned out to be a boy, and suddenly your season of being just a “girl mom” is ending & it’s bittersweet.
when people marvel that all three little ladies belong to you, you have your go-to lines:
- “ha yeah, we thought we’d be an all boy family. but God laughed and gave us girls instead.”
- “we love having all girls!”
- “we’re raising warrior princesses because the world needs some strong, Godly women.”
you handle people’s negative comments towards having three girls so well – being kind but firm that you are not the stereotypical girl mom and will not tolerate those negative outcomes.
when people talk about all the pink, girl toys and princess movies you must endure, you chuckle and admit they only really know a couple of princesses but can name all the popular superheroes. that their toys are so gender-neutral that baby boy will have lots of options when he’s ready to play. etc.
now with Little Man on the way, you’re already preparing yourself for the day you’ll have to change the way you talk to your kids. no longer can you say “come on, little ladies” and talk to the masses.
for the mom who never wanted girls, you’ve done far better than you give yourself credit. these 3 little misses have been the biggest, brightest, most precious blessing you’ve ever received. each of them so unique and differently wired, they each require a different side of you that only you can provide for them.
you went from feeling so unqualified to raise girls, afraid you wouldn’t have anything to offer them and they’d be in therapy as adults, fearful they’d walk a similar path you did growing up and unsure why God kept giving you little ladies to raise when there was so much you didn’t know yourself.
but over time, you’ve grown, you’ve learned and you’ve embraced their hearts and catered to each of your daughters’ special needs.
Rylie is the compassionate tomboy, Emmaline is the wild, passionate girly-girl and Paisley is sweet but extremely driven.
there is a little of you in each of them, and that is the part they need you for. they need you to help them be strong, fierce, gentle, kind, compassionate, fun and Godly. they need you! & they love you. more than you will ever know.
so sweet Sarah, even though you’re not just a “girl mom” anymore, you will always have these last 4 years. and please keep calling them “little ladies” and “little misses” – people swoon every time.
big hugs,
-you